Thursday, March 15, 2018

Do you believe in true love?

Part 1 of an interview with Rhonda Stoppe,
author of Real-Life Romance

Do you believe in true love? In a world of broken relationships and hurting people, it can seem as though heartache is all around us, marriages are doomed from the beginning and relationships aren’t worth the risk. However, in Real-Life Romance: Inspiring Stories to Help You Believe in True Love (Harvest House), Rhonda Stoppe sets out to show that heart-fluttering, long-lasting love is all around us, if we just take the time to look for it.

Real-Life Romance is not a marriage self-help book; rather it is a celebration of love stories that honor Christ and are a testament of God’s faithfulness, showing that true love exists and endures. Gathered from years of ministry and from the author’s friends and family, these real-life accounts will bring laughter and tears to readers as they read of ordinary people who found extraordinary love. Stoppe believes audiences will find inspiration to:
  • rekindle the romance in their love story,
  • trust in God’s providence and timing,
  • faithfully hope for their own happily-ever-after,
  • celebrate true romance,
  • and believe in lifelong love.

including photos of the couples and video clips of the couples from the book.

Q: Real-Life Romance shares real-life accounts of ordinary people who found extraordinary love. How did you find and collect the stories included in your new book?

My husband and I have been in ministry for 30 years. In that time we have had the privilege of watching many young people fall in love, meeting people with incredible love stories and walking the elderly through the death of their loved one. The love stories we have heard in our years of ministry, along with speaking at women’s events, I have heard story after story of real romance that offers hope. I truly believe the world is ready for a book celebrating that kind of love.                                                                

Q: When people think of romance, candles and roses come to mind. What actually is romance, at least from your point of view?

Romance — real romance — is loving someone for who they are and believing the best about that person. I think of 1 Corinthians 13, which says, “Love bares all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” That’s romance.

Choosing to believe the best about your love when they haven’t measured up to your expectations? That’s romance. Choosing to see their beauty after they’ve been up all night with a sick baby, and they look like a train wreck? That’s true romance. It’s the love we long for and the love we hope to give. This love is possible when our love for Christ is deeper than our love for any other person in life.

Q: When did you first realize you were in love with your husband, Steve?

I met Steve when I was only 14 (almost 15) years old. He had come home from Bible college and was way too old for me. At that age, six years’ difference is a big deal. I remember when I met him for the first time that he took my breath away. After a quick interaction with him, I walked away and literally thought, I’m going to marry him one day. (Immediately, I was embarrassed at the thought because I was young and knew this would be impossible.)

I watched him date all the college women in our church and wished he would look my way, but I knew I was too young. Throughout the years our paths would cross. When our siblings were dating each other, I was often nominated by my parents to be their chaperone. Steve would come along from time to time. As I got older, the time came when. . . . Well, I am not going to tell you the whole story. You can read it in the first chapter of the book! Let’s just say, I knew I loved him almost from the start, and it took God a number of years to work out the timing of our love story.

Q: What lessons did you have to learn about God’s timing after you first met Steve, then later on in your marriage? What advice do you offer to those who may be growing impatient in finding the love of their life?

As a young girl I was naive about how real romance would be found. Because of the age difference between me and Steve, it would be awhile before we would become a couple, but looking back, I see how God orchestrated our steps. He was in control over the timing of our story. I recall how one night Steve called me on the phone while I was on a date with another young man. Just when the young man and I were moving toward a place of inappropriateness, Steve called. He had no idea at the time that his phone call was God’s timing to rescue me from going down a path I wasn’t equipped to steer away from. Since our story began by relying on God’s providence, remembering His sovereignty in our story has helped us to trust God’s timing and providence throughout our marriage and as we look forward to our future.

Whenever I speak at a women’s event or my husband and I teach at our No Regrets Marriage Conference, we inevitably hear someone’s heartbreaking story of how his or her spouse is addicted to pornography. I share one story in the book. Chuck and Angie met when they were young. Both were Christians, and long before they met one another, both had committed to Christ that they would wait to have sex until marriage. After they fell in love and married, the two settled into married life. You can imagine Angie’s surprise when Chuck seemed less than interested in enjoying her in their marriage bed. One day Angie stumbled across the reason for Chuck’s lack of interest. He had been viewing pornography. When Angie approached Chuck about what she had discovered, he was quick to apologize and promised it would never happen again.

But happen it did, repeatedly. The more Chuck wrestled with his addiction, the more Angie resented him for his sinful behavior. For Angie, forgiving Chuck was hard, but resenting him was even harder. As Angie pressed in to her love for Christ, He gave her His selfless love for Chuck. As Chuck allowed God’s Spirit to strengthen him in his battle against his addiction, he has seen strides of great victory. Angie credits prayer for getting her through. It was humbling when she realized that whatever sin she was addicted to was equal to Chuck’s. They both had to break free of their sinful struggles.

I also share a story of a couple who battled alcohol and drug addiction. As a young woman Jennifer battled with feelings of being used and unwanted while for most of Jeff’s life he wrestled with feelings of inadequacy and loneliness. Both tried to mask their pain through alcohol and partying. That’s where the two one day collided into each other. Eventually, they were wed. Jennifer stopped drinking when she found Jeff and thought her love for him should be enough to make him stop as well. As time went on, Jeff’s drinking turned to drug addiction. After their first baby was born, sadly Jennifer moved out of their home, but she never gave up on Jeff. After she started attending church and found Jesus, daily she asked God to save Jeff too. Through a wonderful set of circumstances Jeff came to Christ and broke free of his addictions, and the two were reunited. That was more than 25 years ago. Their love is stronger than ever, and these days they serve Christ together as worship leaders in their church.

Both couples were able to heal their marriages by bringing Christ into their marriage. They wouldn’t have been able to do it on their own.

Q: Both of your daughters and their husbands have faced challenges of their own challenges many couples face. Can you share a little bit about their struggles with growing their families?

When my youngest daughter, Kayla, and her husband, Estevan, were expecting their first baby, they were saddened when the doctor told them the ultra sound revealed the baby she had been carrying no longer had a heartbeat. They were heartbroken over their loss but drew strength from knowing God was lovingly in control of all aspects of their life, and their trust in Christ drew them closer to one another for comfort.

That Christmas, Kayla and Estevan sent out a beautiful letter to their friends and family sharing just how sweetly God had walked them through their trial with His peace. Their testimony of God’s faithfulness was read by numerous people who did not know Christ. Amidst the storm, their love for one another and trust in Christ shined brightly.

A month after Kayla’s miscarriage our family was overjoyed when our eldest daughter, Meredith, gave birth to her second child, Ivy. Ivy had been born with some unexpected deformities. In a moment everything changed.

Throughout time Meredith and her husband, Jake, came to understand the syndrome God had allowed little Ivy to be born with. Rather than questioning God, the two had come to realize that the Lord’s love for Ivy far exceeded their own and that they could trust Him with their sweet baby girl. This grandmother’s heart was encouraged by Meredith’s wisdom and peace when one day she said to me, “Mom, this is Ivy’s trial, and God has invited us to prepare her to walk through it.”

Great love stories don’t always consist of two people falling in love and living without a care in the world. Rather, true love stories are wrapped around real life where God calls two people together to love Him and to love each other no matter what trials might come in life. When the love of two people is deeply rooted in Christ’s love for them, their response to life’s trials will reflect to a watching world how knowing Jesus really is the way to true love, joy and peace, no matter what challenges may come — and in this God is glorified.

Learn more about more about Real-Life Romance and Rhonda Stoppe at, on Facebook (RhondaStoppeNoRegretsWoman) and on Twitter (@RhondaStoppe).

Wednesday, March 14, 2018

Changes, they are a comin'

Changes can be scary. Changes can be especially scary when they are unplanned.

That's where I'm finding myself right now.

As I chatter on vaguely, because I can't go into details at the moment, I have to admit, I've known change was likely coming.

That doesn't make it easier as it isn't by choice.

Yet change can be good. Sometimes it's time for a change.

Sometimes I want a change, but I'm just too fearful of something different. Sometimes it takes a push out of my/your/our comfort zone.

Unplanned change also brings anxiety. It can be overwhelming. That's where I am right now.

If you don't mind, say a prayer for me. Leave a comment or send me a message, and I'll say one for you too.

Tuesday, March 13, 2018

Hettie Brittz’s ‘Growing Kids with Character’ Blog Tour, Facebook Live, and Giveaway

Have you ever wished your kids came with an instruction manual? Hettie Brittz's new book, Growing Kids with Character, provides a resource to understand a child’s natural bents not only to excel in life but also to firmly establish their identity and purpose in Christ better. Through Hettie Brittz’s famous tree metaphors, parents will discover how to let their kids excel at being who they naturally are as they grow in their unique purpose in the world.

Join Hettie and other parents to learn how to grow kids with character at her Facebook Live event, plus enter to win a family fun prize pack!


One grand prize winner will receive:
Enter today by clicking the icon below. But hurry, the giveaway ends on April 3. The winner will be announced at Hettie's Facebook Live Party. RSVP for a chance to connect with Hettie and other parents, as well as for a chance to win other prizes!

RSVP today and spread the word—tell your friends about the giveaway and Facebook Live party via social media and increase your chances of winning. Hope to see you on the 3rd!


Growing Kids with Character: Nurturing Your Child’s Potential, Purpose, and Passion (David C. Cook, March 2018)
Through Hettie Brittz’s famous tree metaphors, parents will discover how to let their kids excel at being who they naturally are as they grow in their unique purpose in the world.
Author and speaker Hettie Brittz helps readers identify their kids’ natural bent and understand how that affects the parenting journey. Parents will learn how to:
—Cultivate each of their kids’ unique way of encountering, following, and worshiping God
—Disciple and discipline based on each child’s blueprint
—Help their children celebrate God’s individualized design for others
Brittz offers tools to parents for recognizing their kids’ God-given personalities, guiding them on their spiritual journeys, and establishing their identity and purpose in Christ.


Hettie Brittz is a South African–born author, international speaker, and a foremost voice in parenting advice and personality styles. She is the author of (un)Natural Mom, the developer of the Evergreen Parenting Course, and the codeveloper of Tall Trees Profiles. She heads up Tall Trees Consulting (USA).
Find out more about Hettie at

Monday, March 12, 2018

Grace Revealed by Fred Sievert

Discover the God who is present in our time of need and who delivers His unmerited gift of grace in His perfect timing in Fred Sievert’s new book, Grace Revealed. Whether you’re facing health problems, emotional issues, career challenges, gut-wrenching losses, or other failures, these experiences can destroy your morale and lead you into despair. Some crises may be a result of your own choices, while others may be completely out of your control. Whatever the source, there is a lasting solution that comes to you free of charge from above: God’s amazing grace. Read these undeniable, modern-day examples of God’s loving grace and its transformative power, and discover that God is always present in your time of need.


(Broadstreet Publishing Group, January 2018)
Trust in the unmerited gift of God’s grace
You can’t escape the inevitable crises that will face you throughout your lifetime. Whether it’s health problems, emotional issues, career challenges, gut-wrenching losses, or other failures, these experiences can destroy your morale and lead you into despair. Some crises may be a result of your own choices, while others may be completely out of your control. Whatever the source, there is a lasting solution that comes to you free of charge from above: God’s amazing grace.
In Grace Revealed, you will:
—Experience real-life stories of others who discover they are not alone and that relief is within their grasp.
—See how devastating afflictions can be overcome through faith in Jesus and His love, mercy, and grace.
—Learn how God’s grace transforms lives and leads you into enduring and rewarding Christian service.
—Be inspired to encourage others who are suffering but cannot seek help on their own.
Read these undeniable, modern-day examples of God’s loving grace and its transformative power, and discover that God is always present in your time of need.
Fred Sievert


Fred Sievert is a speaker, author, and former president of New York Life Insurance Company. Following his early retirement at age fifty-nine, Sievert attended Yale Divinity School and received a master’s degree. Sievert remains actively engaged in his greatest passions, which include speaking and writing about his faith, mentoring young executives, and serving as a lay leader of his church and on the boards of several organizations with missions well-aligned with his beliefs and values. Fred and his wife have five grown children, three grandchildren, and reside in East Falmouth, Massachusetts.
Find out more about Fred at

Sunday, March 11, 2018

Oh, How I Love Jesus

Oh How I Love Jesus

(girls) Oh, boys, do you love Jesus?
(boys) Oh, yes, we love Jesus?
(girls) Are you sure you love Jesus?
(boys) Yes, we’re sure we love Jesus.
(girls) Tell us why we love Jesus.
(boys) This is why we love Jesus.
(everyone together) Because he first loved me.

Oh, how I love Jesus
Oh, how I love Jesus
Oh, how I love Jesus
Because he first loved me.

Can also alternate between teacher and kids and insert each child's name in.

Saturday, March 10, 2018

Why do you need a publicist?

In the last Litfuse video with Caitlin, we talk about why an author needs a publicist. It is only available on Facebook right now, and it won't be there forever, so check it out while you can here

After watching, if you want more information on publicity, you can email me at

This is a Saturday post, so I'm going to leave it short and sweet. It's more fun listening to me talk than reading, right? 😁

Friday, March 9, 2018

Loneliness isn’t something we can ignore

There so much wisdom in this that I really need to read. Loneliness is a big struggle for me. 

Part 1 of an interview with Tiffany Bluhm,
Author of Never Alone

Loneliness is on the rise in our society and impacting people of all ages. Research has shown that it increases stress and high blood pressure, weakens blood flow and immune systems, and is linked to mental disorders, depression, and even early death. It isn’t something to ignore, but rather it’s a signal for us to pay attention. Unfortunately, its negative associations, such as a weakness perception or feeling of having poor social skills, impede people from being honest about where they stand. To make matters worse, it has contagious tendencies, and our social networking culture makes it viral. To break the cycle, we need to understand what loneliness does and the behavior it encourages, seek to be more positive and discerning, and retrain how we think about people. For persons of faith, that includes re-evaluating what loneliness has led us to believe about God and our relationship with him. The debut book, Never Alone: Exchanging Your Tender Hurts for God’s Healing Grace (Abingdon Press), by Bible teacher and speaker Tiffany Bluhm serves as a guide to help women do just that.

Q: Of all the fears there are in the world, how prevalent is the fear of being alone?

As little girls, we feared playing alone on the playground. In middle school, we feared sitting alone at lunch. In high school, we feared going alone to the prom. As adults, we fear we may never marry or have children. We fear our husbands may leave us. We fear we will be left to our solitary selves to fight the hardest battles of our lives. We spend our lives doing our absolute best to prove we are lovable and valuable, never to be ignored or left alone.

Q: Why do women need to hear and be reminded they are never alone? 

Hearing they are never alone addresses women’s worst fear that they'll be left alone, rejected by the people around them simply for who they are, what they have done, or what’s been done to them.

Q: What was your inspiration for writing Never Alone and its companion Bible study?

Too many women, including myself, have wondered if our life experiences disqualify us from the intervention and hope of Jesus. I was inspired by my own struggles (including abandonment at birth, being dumped by the man of my dreams, and losing a child in the adoption process) and struggles of close friends that we are not only loved by Jesus but given a beautiful identity as we follow him.

I’ve always believed women play a critical role in society, one that is intended to be defined not by culture but by Christ. Never Alone exposes the truth of a woman’s value and vision when she believes in God and who he designed her to be.

Q: What is the main message you have for your readers? Whom did you write Never Alone for?

Never Alone claims you are not too far gone, beyond repair, or too broken for the companionship and grace of Jesus. Jesus restores dignity to women when the world tries to rip it away from them. The person you were intended to be is found when you work through the dark parts of your story and soul and cling to Christ through it all. If you ask him, the light of Christ will heal you, restore you, and lead you on. 

Never Alone is for women who have allowed shame, despair, rejection, and loss to define their lives. No matter how small the incident or how big the trauma, we were built to walk in the fullness of God, never a counterfeit version determined by our life’s aches and pains. 

Q: How do our relationships change when we begin to believe fully that Christ will never leave us? Once we realize He is always with us, are we better equipped to conquer loneliness in our daily lives?

A soul without Christ will hunger for someone to make it complete. We were built to abide in Christ, and if we don’t, too often we’ll seek and search for someone else to fulfill us. To be our everything. It’s a misplaced need that no human can bear, but Christ can. We can’t put on others what only Christ can do. When the companionship of Christ is enough for us, we change, as do our relationships.

You see, what we believe about ourselves is projected onto our relationships. The healthier the soul, the sweeter the relationships around us. Our brokenness made whole is not only for us. Others will see the glory of God at work in our life when we experience it for ourselves.

Q: You suggest women forgo healing when they fail to see God’s presence in their hardest memories and toughest trials. How does revisiting the past help with the healing process?

You and I are who we are today because of the experiences of our past. If we want to work through our current struggles, it will serve us well to revisit the past experiences that have affected how we see ourselves, others, and God. If we are able to identify those contributing factors of the past we can invite Christ in to those tender moments. We can ask him to redeem what has happened ten, twenty, thirty, or forty years ago.

You know what is really good news? Jesus’ grace is retroactive. It can redeem the hurts of the past if only we offer up those aches and pains. We must remember that God isn't the cause of our misfortune or pain; he is the answer. Sometimes we want to push him away because we think he failed to save us from whatever tragedy occurred, but that's not the case. He is the healer of tragedy, not the cause. 

Q: What are some other factors that work against women in their journey to restoration?

Honestly, the lies we believe about ourselves, coupled with festering resentment and bitterness for the way things have turned out in life, make for some hefty stumbling blocks. Sometimes, you don't know where to start in your hunt for restoration. You and I can easily question if Jesus' grace is capable of doing all it claims it can. 

In our deepest hurts is when we decide who Jesus is—not just in the good times, but in the hard ones. If we aren’t able to identify the presence of Jesus in our pain we may wonder if he can restore our broken moments that leave us lonely and confused.

For those wishing to dig deeper into what the Bible teaches about this subject, Bluhm has also created the Never Alone: 6 Encounters with Jesus to Heal Your Deepest Hurts Bible study that explores the story of six hurting women in the Gospels.

Keep up with Tiffany Bluhm and read her blog at She is also active on Facebook (TiffanyABluhm), Twitter (@tiffanybluhm), and Instagram (@tiffanybluhm).

Thursday, March 8, 2018

Shelley Shepard Gray's His Risk

What lengths would you go to to protect the person you love? Find out what one undercover English DEA agent will do to protect the Amish girl he loves in Shelley Shepard Gray’s His Risk. When a sudden surge of criminal activity alarms the community and even targets Alice, Calvin fears that his double life has put everyone he loves at risk. As for Alice, she can’t help but wonder if the brave and honorable man she’s lost her heart to is far more dangerous than she could ever imagine.
Enter to win a copy of His Risk. Five winners will be chosen! Click the image below to enter to win. The winners will be announced March 28 on the Litfuse blog!

The Amish of Hart County (Avon Inspire, March 2018)
An undercover English DEA agent will do anything to protect the Amish girl he loves.
Calvin Fisher left the Amish community at fourteen and never looked back. Only his brother’s illness can bring him back to Hart County. Now, as Calvin works to make amends, he meets Alice, a local nursery school teacher, and falls hard for her. But he has a secret that could threaten the happiness he’s finally found.
Alice shouldn’t like—or want—Calvin. He’s English, has a questionable past, and an even more questionable job. Still, she can’t help being intrigued. Though Calvin assures Alice that he’s worthy of her, she’s torn between surrendering to her growing feelings and steering clear of him.
When a sudden surge of criminal activity alarms the community and even targets Alice, Calvin fears that his double life has put everyone he loves at risk. As for Alice, she can’t help but wonder if the brave and honorable man she’s lost her heart to is far more dangerous than she could ever imagine.
Shelley Shepard Gray


Shelley Shepard Gray is a New York Times and USA Today bestselling author, a finalist for the American Christian Fiction Writers prestigious Carol Award, and a two-time HOLT Medallion winner. She lives in southern Ohio, where she writes full-time, bakes too much, and can often be found walking her dachshunds on her town’s bike trail.
Find out more about Shelley at

Wednesday, March 7, 2018

Kim Vogel Sawyer Remembers Christy

Bonus video! We're excited to be partnering with Gilead Publishing to create and distribute videos featuring some of your favorite authors sharing their memories of reading Catherine Marshall's Christy! The six videos have been released week by week every Monday. One reader who shares the videos on his or her social media platforms or blog will receive a $100 Amazon gift card! To enter, fill out  this form. You can fill it out for as many times as you share the videos. The winner will be announced March 12 (thanks to this week's bonus video) and contacted via email.

Kim Vogel Sawyer was given Christy by her mother,
and since then Kim hasn't been able to forget the
characters and Catherine Marshall's writing!
About Christy:

The train taking nineteen-year-old teacher Christy Huddleston from her home in Asheville, North Carolina, might as well be transporting her to another world. The Smoky Mountain community of Cutter Gap feels suspended in time, trapped by poverty, superstitions, and century-old traditions. But as Christy struggles to find acceptance in her new home, some see her — and her one-room school — as a threat to their way of life. Her faith is challenged and her heart is torn between two strong men with conflicting views about how to care for the families of the Cove. Yearning to make a difference, will Christy’s determination and devotion be enough?

Tuesday, March 6, 2018

I think I hate Arie more tonight on the finale finale of #thebachelor than last night.

I had to moderate an author chat tonight that has been scheduled for months. So, I'm starting The Bachelor exactly 90 minutes late. I turned on the TV just in time to see...

Well, we'll get to that later. I'm hoping there are lots of commercials so that I'm not blogging for two solid hours now that it's getting late.

The thing I just didn't say above? Well, Chris Harrison gave it away 90 seconds in, then tried to cover it. Another wedding proposal. I'll say it since he did. 

We're going to fast forward through last night's recaps. Ain't nobody got time for that. I have some things I need to do after this! I have lots of other things DVRing too.

Afterwards, Arie is playing the poor, poor, pitiful me card. No one understands him. No one knows what he is going through except Jason Mesnick. Jason tells him everyone would hate him.

If Arie could turn back time, he would have been with Lauren. He goes out to Virginia Beach to find her because he wants to marry her. He arrives at her house and has a panic attack.

Before we knock on her door, we have to follow poor Becca up her snow covered stairs because the cameras are there in Minneapolis when she arrives home. Or they staged her dragging her suitcase up the sidewalk. That's probably what happened. I don't know, they are following her everywhere anyway. Poor Becca. She really did love him. She's still in denial though because she can't see Arie and Lauren together. 

Back to Arie's panic attack. Lauren greets him at the door with a giant hug. Arie reveals that he called Lauren, and she knows that he and Becca broke up. Lauren says she was angry at first thinking he just needed closure.

I bet they were talking on the phone the whole time. 

Lauren tells him it was really hard because she couldn't talk to anyone, especially anyone that understood. She came back to her family for a while. After crying a bit while saying all this, she's about to break into smiles.

When quizzed about if he was sure in the moment on the day of proposal, Arie says he was making the safe choice. He claims to have really tried with her. Because Becca knew he was struggling, he asked for permission to call Lauren for closure. When he heard Lauren's voice, he was in trouble. Yet, now he is confident that he is 100% over Becca.

I hate Arie more now than last night.

Lauren always hoped this would happen... He wants her back. Passionate kiss. She throws in she wants and engagement soon.


Yeah, they've been talking a while because none of this is believable.

Chris Harrison joins some of the women from the season. Baby Bekah is basically wearing a bra with a sheer shirt over it. She looks ridiculous. The women love Lauren, but are all aggravated at what a jerk Arie is. 

Caroline (who is only there because she is outspoken, not because anyone remembers her) thinks we needed to see the break-up for some reason. Kendall was glad to see it because it showed how strong Becca was. Sienne thinks we should have seen that Arie had already talked to Lauren before he broke up with Becca.

Tia was with Lauren on NYE when Arie reached out to her. Supposedly it was via social media like the day before the premiere.

Kendall wants it to work out for them, but Baby Bekah thinks Lauren needs to run. They all hope Becca gets another shot. Tia says Becca is hoping Lauren is guarding her heart too so she won't be hurt.

Baby Bekah (why didn't I think of that nickname sooner?) makes the point that Lauren isn't seeing what was going on with Becca and what a jerk Arie was to her when she agrees to give him another chance.

After a commercial break, Chris Harrison welcomes Becca. 

Becca states the obvious, that it was hard to watch back what happened with her and when Arie is talking to Lauren about wanting to get back with her. They talk about when she found out about his conflicted feelings. She knew before they left Peru that he had told both of them that he loved them. She found out about a week before the break-up that Arie had reached out to Lauren. Watching this all now, and seeing where his heart lies, has brought some closure. No one wants to be with someone who feels trapped.

Becca now gets her chance to see Arie and ask some questions.

This is the first time they have seen each other since their break-up. She's ready to get it over with and move on. She reluctantly hugs him.

Question #1: When did you know you wanted to break-up with me and reunite with Lauren?

Answer: After I talked to Lauren. Once I knew there was a chance.

Question #2: When talking with her and having that conversation... we talked about you doing it beforehand, but then why did you hide it so long afterwards?

Answer: You were working, and we were apart. I needed that time to process it.

Question #3: She has trouble getting the question out. Why weren't you honest... when you knew it wasn't going to work with me at all.

Answer: You go through this intense break-up and then a proposal. It's not normal...

Basically it all boils down to this:

I was really into Lauren. I missed her, but I felt guilty. I wanted to try to work it out with her, but I didn't want to tell you that until I knew for sure that she would take me back. Once I knew that I could get what I really wanted, I decided to call it off with you. 

Chris asks him if he has any regrets or anything he wants to get off his chest. His regret is proposing to her that day. It was the pressure, but it was his choice and his fault.

Becca wishes he had thought through it more because she'll never get a "first proposal/first engagement" ever again. In other words, she only wanted to have that experience once. Arie agrees and apologizes.

If anyone knows how this feels, it's Jason and Molly Mesnick. So, we get to hear from them. Molly says Arie should have called them first. Jason would have suggested that he did it privately. Jason did it publicly which wasn't a good choice. 

Arie is back. He and Lauren didn't watch last night's episode, but did see some of what was said on social media. They bring out Lauren. She's ready to do normal couple things. She's as articulate as ever.

Chris recaps that she left Peru with a broken heart around Thanksgiving. Because Arie could not get her phone number through production, Arie reached out to Lauren via Instagram on New Year's Eve. She wanted to make sure Becca knew they were in touch. They exchanged updates on how they were both struggling. Now that they are together, their love is stronger than ever.

The next stupid question from Chris is, "Everyone hates Arie now. What do you love about him?" Something about bravery. Then Lauren is asked, "Do you trust this man." "With all my heart."

Arie claims he took a risk that was worth it because he thought of Lauren day and night. There was guilt about that, but all that matters is that they love each other.

Chris Harrison is having to stretch this to make it two hours worth of show. It's getting uber boring again. "It was worth it to do this show again after five years..."

Arie then pulls Lauren around the stage, does the big speech before getting down on one knee and proposing to her, "Like I should have a long time ago." Baby Bekah's expression in the crowd is priceless.

Lauren's family is in the crowd. Chris Harrison claims he didn't see it coming. Lie. Obviously. He slipped at the first of the show. Everyone knew it. No one was surprised.

Speaking of no surprise, it's time to announce the next Bachelorette. Becca is jumping right back into the fire. The crowd in the studio erupts in cheers. 

Chris claims it was an easy choice to invite her back. She said it was an easy choice for her to accept. She's ready to find love, the man of her dreams, the one for her.

All the women from the season join her on stage. It's a love fest which is kind of ironic given how they usually get back stabby during the season.

Let me just say that Baby Bekah's dress is so bizarre and Tia's butt is about hanging out of her outfit as she sits on the couch.

Chris rolls in a fake set with a mansion backdrop so Becca can meet a few of the men right here, right now.

First up, a man with a bow tie and an accent. It's Lincoln (like the President). A charming black man who says it's his birthday. He says he is blushing, but you can't tell for obvious reasons. He's taking up all the time we might have had to meet other men by nervously chatting.

Next is Chase. His big hair on top is going to get on my nerves. They are all going to point out how she deserves better than Arie.

Ryan serenades her with the banjo. He too wears a bow tie. That's two strikes in my book.

Darius apologizes on behalf of all men for what happened to her. He's gushing about her.

A man with a horse coming through the audience is next up. This is Blake and his horse Bradley. "When you fall off the horse, you have to get back on." This is his Schtick. He wants to help her get back on the horse. She has to get up side saddle because she's in a dress with quite the slit.

And so ends another season of The Bachelor.