Monday, May 20, 2019

The Bachelorette: Hannah B. - Week 2

Since four or five people read the blog last week, here we go with week 2.

Hannah wants real. Real conversations. Real relationships. Real. She does some odd rap that's odd.

Luke P. already sees having a family with her. Can you say stalker material?

Chris Harrison asks how the guys felt after night one. He drops off the first date card.

"Grant, Luke S., Mike, Jed, Jonathan, John Paul Jones, Dylan, Luke P. - I'm looking for my Mr. Right. - Hannah"

Peter thinks she has the wrong group of guys because he isn't in that group.

When the men arrive at a theater, she informs them they will be doing a pageant. To prepare the men for the Mr. Right Pageant, there are three drag queens that are going to coach them.

There is a talent portion and a Speedo swimsuit competition.

Dylan is the first up to strut in his Speedo. He evidently impresses the judges.

Jonathan struts with high socks, but still gets many a cheer.

No one really knows what to do with John Paul Jones.

Jed models with his cowboy boots on. The judges drool.

Luke P. is jealous. But, as JPJ says, "Luke P. has the body of a Greek god." Even his fellow contestants seem impressed.

When it comes time for the talent portion, JPJ rides a unicycle.

Luke P cannot play the trumpet.

Jonathan tries to juggle and tap dance at the same time.

Someone walks around in high heels. I can't tell who is who yet. (Had to look it up - Mike.)

Jed sings an original song. He's dressed like Indiana Jones, but I don't know why.

Grant gives up.

Luke P.'s talent is professing that he is already falling in love with her. He walks down the catwalk to give her a kiss.

Chris Harrison comes back out to announce the winner of Mr. Right. Luke P. wins the crown. I'm over him already. He tries too hard.

The other Luke rolled his eyes at this. He says he could never say that after one night. All the guys may be going after Hannah, but they aren't ready to claim love yet.

As the cocktail party because, the first guy to pull her away after the toast was Luke P. Hannah says it kind of scares her that he's already saying it and that he means it. It's been less than 48 hours after all. He started having feelings for her before meeting her. He is saying all the right things. Part of Hannah always centers in on one guy, and she's feeling Luke's pull.

Mike questions Luke P. about his profession. It won't be long before he is questioning everyone else's intentions.

Back at the mansion, the men are in a set-up group chat as they wait for the next date card to arrive.

"Tyler G. - Falling in love can be messy. - Hannah"

But back on the group date...

Jed says he had fun with the drag queens. He tries to clarify by saying, he enjoys anyone who can be themselves.

When it comes time for the group date rose, she wants to give it to someone who shined. She gives it to Jed. Probably the first runner-up of the Mr. Right Pageant.

The next day, Hannah arrives to get Tyler G. for the date, and a helicopter arrives to sweep them away. 

After they leave, Jed plays the guitar while Cam raps. That's going to get really old, really fast.

Hannah wants a man who is not afraid to get dirty. They are going to do some muddin' on four-wheelers. Of course, she is wearing all white.

Tyler tells her it is so surreal to get the first one-on-one. She tells him to enjoy the moment and be real. He thinks this is how fairy tales start.

Over "dinner" Hannah tells Tyler how great the date was. He surprised her by how natural it felt. They talk about what it means to be strong. He's borderline emotional. He wants to hear about her dreams. She's always wanted to be a mom and have some kind of career.

At the house, Cam is freaking out. The date card arrives.

"Devin, Matteo, Daron, Connor J., Kevin, Dustin, Tyler C., Joey, Peter, Garrett - Let's get our love on track. - Hannah

There are three that will not have a date this week. Cam, Connor S. and Matthew are the odd men out.

Back on the date, Tyler G. gets his date rose.

It's a new day. Hannah and the guys will be taking part in some roller derby. They will be schooled by three of LA's best derby dolls. Hannah isn't great on skates. The last time she skated, she broke her arm and never tried again.

I don't know if there's a decent skater in the bunch. They are all falling off the slanted walls during practice.

At the mansion, Cam and his harmonica are singing the blues. It's pitiful. He's planning to be bold and ABC... Always Be Cam. He's going to say that at least once a week.

Fred Willard is back to do commentary with Chris Harrison for goodness only knows what reason.

When it comes time to skate in front of an audience, they aren't any more steady on their feet. Dustin takes a hard fall and really bangs up his ankle.

The green team beats the orange team. Daron led them to victory as like the only guy who can skate.

They head to Big Daddy's for the evening. Hannah picks Dustin to talk to first. He wants to follow-up on his ankle. He has a nose ring which seems odd for a guy. Hannah tells him that she has noticed his energy. he gets his kiss in.

Peter talks about how he may have flown her on a trip before.

All the guys think they are going to get some time with her. They are getting some competition. Cam shows up uninvited. He makes his ABC reference again. Hannah is puzzled when Cam arrives and interrupts her time with Devin. Puzzled in a bad way, BTW. Not sure the bouquet of flowers is going to win her over.

Hannah tells Cam she knows its hard. He tries to play off funny by saying he's not trying to be over Hannalytical. She tells him thank you for coming, kisses him and send him off.

He has creepy eyes when talking to the camera. What's also creepy is Tyler C. walking up behind him while he is talking to the cameras. There's a confrontation of words before Tyler goes back in.

While Tyler C. is still pontificating, two other men come out (Kevin and someone), one at a time, to confront Cam.

The group date rose goes to Dustin because she asked for someone to get back up after trying. She tells everyone she had a great day, but the's really tired. I am too. I'm trying not to doze off with my fingers on the keys.

It's the next night, and Hannah arrives for the cocktail party and rose ceremony. 

She arrives emotional. She starts a speech about being real. One guy calls for Kleenex and someone offers a handkerchief. It's hard for her to make decisions without knowing them that well. 

After the toast, Hannah is immediately pulled away by Connor S. He's interrupted by Kevin. Kevin is interrupted by ABCam. Cam pulls Kevin and Hannah away. He's a picky eater and brings chicken nuggets. He offers Hannah some dipping sauce.

Tyler C. sets up some rose petals, candles and pillows on the ground. The cold ground.

Jed has a rose, but wants 5 minutes to see her, but not before Luke P. gets some time trying to give her a massage. She wants him to take his shirt off and get his own massage. They are in middle of a make out session with Luke's shirt off when Jed interrupts.

It's an awkward moment. It kind of kills the mood. Jed heads to sit by the fire by himself. Hannah finally comes out to find him. He tries to play it off as harder for her than him. She says, "It really wasn't want it looked like. It was a massage."

After a little more chatting with the men, it's time for a rose ceremony.

Jed, Tyler G. and Dustin have roses.

  1. Tyler C.
  2. Garrett
  3. Devin
  4. Connor S.
  5. Luke P. (who is giving commentary on the wrong boldness of Cam)
  6. Dylan
  7. Luke S. 
  8. Mike
  9. Peter
  10. Kevin
  11. Jonathan
  12. Jelly? Oh, Joey. I couldn't understand her. I had a hard time with Dylan too. 
  13. Matteo
  14. John Paul Jones
  15. Grant
  16. Cam
That means going home are the other Connor, Daron and Matthew. 

Cam toasts to his best from Hannah Ayala. Hannah didn't know what that meant. It's Cam's last name. 

She wants a man who can be bold. She's trying to do her post rose ceremony interview, but Luke P. comes in. She wants to talk to Luke more. 

Hannah tells him that the "falling in love with me" thing was a lot and comes off as a competitive thing. That doesn't keep her from get hot and heavy with him under the interview lights. 

Cue previews of next week. 

Thursday, May 16, 2019

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Talk the Walk:
How to Be Right without Being Insufferable

By Steve Brown

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Steve Brown encourages Christians to step up to share
their faith and speak out on what they know is right.
This attitude-altering book invites Christians to cultivate boldness and humility in communicating gospel truth. By uncovering self-righteousness and spiritual arrogance, Talk the Walk by pastor and author Steve Brown shatters stereotypes and helps believers consider how they present the good news without watering it down.
The Christian faith is true, and while we may be right on issues of salvation and theology, we may miss the less articulated truths of humility, love, and forgiveness. We live in a culture that is increasingly hostile to Christians and their faith. Talk the Walk unpacks the call to “go out into the world” and share faith by being truthful and winsome. By helping men and women love others out of a deeper love in Christ—the one who first loved us—Talk the Walk helps Christians present the gospel clearly and with compassion.
Take a step back and look at others’ perceptions. Explore the tools necessary to accomplish an attitude change of confidence and humility, repentance and truth. Share the message of Christ without distorting it. Speak confidently without being cold. By operating out of humble gratitude for the gospel, begin to talk the walk of Christian faith, reflecting the love and truth of Jesus.
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Talk the Walk: How to Be Right without Being Insufferable
by Steve Brown
June 3, 2019 / Retail Price: $15.99
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About the author

Steve Brown is the Founder of Key Life Network, Inc., the Bible teacher on the radio program Key Life and host of the talk show Steve Brown, Etc. He was a pastor for more than thirty years and continues speaking extensively.

He has authored numerous books, including How to Talk So People Will Listen, Three Free Sins, Hidden Agendas and his latest release, Talk the Walk. Brown has also written for publications such as Leadership, Decision, Plain Truth, and Today’s Christian Woman. He previously served as a member of the Board of Directors of Christianity Today and Harvest USA.

Brown and his wife have two married daughters and three granddaughters. They make their home in Orlando, FL.

Wednesday, May 15, 2019

Talking With Boys About What It Means to Be a Man

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Talking With Boys About
What It Means to Be a Man
New book provides fathers with tools to have gospel-centered
conversations with their sons about every aspect of life.

Reports suggest boys are more likely to be violent and unable to express their emotions than girls. There’s also a great discussion going on about toxic masculinity leading to pent-up aggression and frustration, isolation, problematic relationships, violence, anger, and other devastating realities. It’s clear raising boys today requires a new definition of what it means to be a man.

It’s more important than ever for fathers to be role models and have gospel-centered conversations with their sons about becoming a man. In Between Us Guys: Life-Changing Conversations for Dads and Sons (New Growth Press/May 13, 2019), author Joel Fitzpatrick shares how dads are given an incredible opportunity to be the primary influence in their children’s lives. By inviting conversations about every aspect of life such as family, girls, love, defending others, failure, strength, and heaven, the author shows fathers how to pass down the message of Christ to the next generation, redefining what manliness means through the lens of the gospel.

Fitzpatrick discusses how TV, the internet, social media, and gaming culture have all taken away from quality time spent between fathers and sons. This book will give dads the tools they need to have intentional relationship-building conversations with their sons. “Most dads can’t remember ever having these sorts of talks with their fathers, so they need help having them,” he says. “Understanding the gospel is vitally important for boys to grow into men who love God and people.”

As a father who is intentional about having these important conversations with his son, Fitzpatrick urges other fathers not to shy away from hard subjects, but to focus on the freedom Christians have in Christ rather than a moralistic message. As a former youth and family pastor, he has helped many other families have life-changing conversations with their children. Fitzpatrick is able to offer practical help and biblical insight on important topics, from social justice and friendships to money, anger, and even what it means to be a man.

“The subject of ‘being a man’ is such a touchy one that it’s even hard to say. ‘Be a man’ can cause so much hurt to those who don’t fit into the typical models of what a man is. What does it mean to be a man? We have all kinds of ways that we think about how to answer this question. The entertainment industry seems to highlight three models of a man in particular: the weakling, the loser, and the womanizer,” Fitzpatrick writes.

“Men come in all shapes and sizes. Men may even struggle with their manhood. So, what does it mean to be a man, and does the Bible hold out a clear description of a man? I think the answer is yes.”

Written for dads and boys between the ages of six and twelve, each chapter is divided into sections that lead the readers through the cycle of what God intended, what the fall broke, what Jesus has redeemed, what heaven will restore, and how we respond. The book offers prompts for conversations or can be read directly by the father to his son. The intention is for the conversations to take place while participating in activities together, and Between Us Guys even offers suggestions of things to do.

By helping fathers apply the life-changing work of Jesus to their sons’ lives, Fitzpatrick’s hope is that relationships between father and son will be restored and strengthened and that this book can help to lay the groundwork for future conversations on biblical masculinity. 

About the author

Joel Fitzpatrick has served as an ordained minister in the Presbyterian Church in America with a focus on youth and family. He received his MDiv from Westminster Seminary California. He is the co-author of Mom, Dad . . . What’s Sex? and contributed chapters to The Sinner and Saints Devotional: 60 days in the Psalms.

Fitzpatrick lives in Southern California with his wife and their two children.

Learn more at and follow him on Twitter (@JoelDFitz).

New Growth Press publishes gospel-centered Christian books, small group, and kids’ Bible resources for discipleship, biblical counseling, and missional ministry. For more information about Between Us Guys: Life-Changing Conversations for Dads and Sons and other releases from New Growth Press, visit

Tuesday, May 14, 2019

Win a copy of Victoria Duerstock's Heart & Home

For the next two weeks, my blog team will be reviewing Heart and Home by Victoria Duerstock, published by Abingdon Press. Learn more about the book, then enter to win a copy of your own. I'm giving away a book at the end of the tour. 

About the book:


Our home and its design can encourage spiritual growth in our hearts.

Heart and Home is a short devotional book with daily devotions for 90 days. The devotionals seek to draw clear connection between the basics of interior design and scripture that encourages spiritual growth within our hearts. The devotionals inspire women to have a captivating heart and home. Included in each devotional is an applicable design tip and photographs. Example devotional topics include unity and harmony, negative space, flow, focal point, and balance.

This devotional includes four-color photographs of home interiors throughout the book.

Click here to view a sample of the book.

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About the author:

Victoria Duerstock is a writer, blogger, teacher, and speaker. Her mission is to inspire hope and ignite bigger dreams for God’s purpose in each of our stories. She has a master’s degree in music, but ended up working in the furniture industry for more than twenty years and loves to make connections between our home environments and our spiritual lives. Victoria writes at Encouraging Women Today, Everything’s Gravy, Creative Corner, and Serious Writer Academy and also has contributed to devotionals for Worthy. She lives in Nesbit, Mississippi, with her husband, and they have three children.

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Coming this fall!

 Heart and Home for Christmas

As a writer, teacher, and speaker with a busy work and family life, Victoria Duerstock understands that all the tasks of the holiday season can make it easy to forget the true joy that Christmas can bring. In Heart and Home for Christmas, Duerstock brings her mission to inspire hope for God's purpose, and her 20 years of experience in the furniture and design industry together, connecting Scripture with design elements and easy decorating tips in a way that reflects the true spirit of Christmas. The devotions and holiday decorating tips will encourage spiritual growth and inspiration to have both a captivating heart and home at Christmas.

Click here to view a sample of the book.

Releases September 17, 2019

Monday, May 13, 2019

The Bachelorette: Hannah B. - Week 1

I woke up this morning after a really crappy weekend and seriously just considered skipping the whole blogging thing on this season of The Bachelorette.

After all, it's a waste of productive time I can spend doing something else, and Hannah B. gets on my next-to-the-last nerve.

But when has that ever stopped me before?

I had all of three people on Facebook promise to read this post if I did it. I've always had low self-esteem and people pleasing issues, so here we go.

I've had a terribly frustrating Monday where if anything could go wrong it did. One annoying little thing after another, many of which made me look like an idiot, with a bigger work issue thrown in.

Then, Sonic messed up my order and my burger came out to me as a chicken sandwich which ended up being fine, but just not what I wanted. Of course, I was trying to get to Sonic earlier, but had to finish a project and thus, here we are. I'm nice and annoyed, so it may be a super snarky ride tonight.

As usual, I'm starting fifteen minutes behind, and this is the episode I have to pause 30+ times to get all the guys' details down on introductions, so no telling what time I will finish this.

This season is already promised to have more man drama than ever before. I bet Hannah cries every episode.

She's also the youngest Bachelorette ever. Which makes me think young and stupid.

To start off, we have to see a recap of when Chris Harrison called with the news of her being chosen as The Bachelorette. We saw this on "The Women Tell All" or "After the Final Rose."

Cue the images of Hannah posing in weird positions out in the Tuscaloosa, Alabama country side making all of her weird, toothy, big mouthed faces. I shouldn't say that. She can't help how ginormous her mouth is.

The guy that runs the local hardware store is proud of her.

She tells her sob story of how even as a pageant winner she never felt good enough. Oh, poor skinny, pretty, popular girl. We all in some way or another try to be perfect. At 24, you simply cannot moan and groan about your long, horrific search for love.

The drinking game for this episode involves the words, "Roll Tide."

To help her get ready for the experience, Katie and Demi are here to support her. Talk about bad seed influences. Maybe I was just talking about that in my head.

So the line-up is as follows. (The guys we met in B-roll footage are marked with an *.) 

(For pictures and more info, go here.)

Garrett, 27, Golf Pro, Birmingham, AL - At first I thought his accent was from Tennessee with the way he said, "awesome." The "awe" to start off the word was bringing back some personal flashbacks. She's excited about him being from Alabama. He wants to be her hole-in-one. Alright, got the first corny joke of the night over with.

*Mike, 31, portfolio manager that was in the Air Force, San Antonio (now Dallas), TX - He has to say goodbye to his grandma before he leaves. The women in his life have taught him many things. He shares the 5 C's he lives by.

Jed, 25, singer/songwriter, Nashville, TN - I would say here's my Tennessee accent, except people from Nashville typically aren't from Nashville.

*Tyler C., 25, general contractor, Jupiter, FL - He was almost a dance major. He and Kevin Bacon are evidently kindred spirits. He hopes to get the first dance. He seems a little stoned when he arrives.

Dylan, 24, tech entrepreneur, San Diego, CA - Call me a cynic, but I think that entrepreneur at age 24 means unemployed.

Connor S., 24, investment analyst, Dallas, TX - He makes his entrance by jumping a fence. Gimmick and reference to last season checked off.

Devin, 27, talent manager, Sherman Oaks, CA - He makes a joke about being a virgin to throw her off, then says he isn't. She asks every guy to repeat their name, by the way.

John Paul Jones, 24, occupation John Paul Jones, Lanham, MD - Evidently this is a character in and of himself. He goes by his whole name all the time. He repeated his name a few times, so maybe she will remember it.

Brian, 30, math teacher, Louisville, KY - He has an awkward laugh. It's so bad.

Scott, 28, software sales executive, Chicago, IL - He's a bit awkward as well. She asks his name again.

Matteo, 25, management consultant, Atlanta, GA - Other than his nervousness and Hannah commenting about guys being nervous, there is nothing to say about him.

Daron, 25, IT consultant, Buckhead, GA - He looks like a former NFL player. At least he looks like he probably played football in college.

Tyler G., 28, psychology graduate student, Boca Raton, FL - He dreamed about her one night, so she is literally the girl of his dreams.

Thomas, 27, International Pro Basketball Player, Detroit, MI - Kind of one short, awkward moment after another.

Matthew, 23, car bid spotter, Newport Beach, CA - Who knew that was a full-time job?

*Joe, 30, The Box King, Chicago, IL - He sells boxes for a living and kind of sounds like he is from Boston. He comes from an Italian family that gathers for dinner. A forklift arrives on the scene with a large box marked "Fragile." Hannah isn't sure if she's supposed to open it or not. Someone pops out. Packing peanuts go everywhere as he exclaims, "This package isn't complete without you." Now, I'm like, "Oh, yeah. The box king from earlier." By the way, his line is, "Hannah, you check all the boxes."

Joey, 33, finance manager, Bethesda, MD - He brings a baby carrier out of the car. He wants to show her what their future looks like together. He pulls a bottle of the bubbly out of the carrier.

*Connor J., 26, sales manager, Newport Beach, CA - His dad is blond hair, blue-eyed from Iowa while his mom is from Hong Kong. Regardless, the guy is a car salesman. Keep that in mind when it comes to his personality. When he arrives, he only speaks French. Why? Yeah, I don't know.

Ryan, 25, roller boy, Philadelphia, PA - He comes in on roller skates yelling, "Roll Tide!" He can't skate.

Hunter, 24, pro surfer, Westchester, CA - He makes a tying the knot joke with a tie he pulls out of his pocket.

Grant, 30, unemployed, San Clemente, CA - This guy is a winner. He talks with his mouth full about the sausage party there tonight. He has the mustard (a bottle in his hand) and hopes they can "relish" the opportunity. He wants to "ketchup inside." I'd say, "Go back to your day job," but he's unemployed.

Jonathan, 27, server, Los Angeles, CA - He gets down on one knee, opens a pizza box, and offers her a pizza his heart. May have been the corniest moment of them all.

Kevin, 27, behavioral health specialist, Manteno, IL - He drops a lot of footballs and makes a comment about fumbling his entrance. These guys are stupid.

*Luke P., 24, Import/export manger, Gainesville, GA - We see him working out in a gym and he thinks is a good looking guy. Keep this in mind when it comes to his personality. Lots of girls thought he was good looking too and he took advantage of that too. One day in the shower (yes, they showed him in a Colton like shot), he came to realize that's not who he wanted to be and had a come to Jesus meeting. He's been working on becoming the husband he wants to be. He arrives in beast mode, coming out of the roof of the limo and growling and carrying on like a gorilla. She met him at After the Final Rose, so she calls him by name when he walks up. Remarkable that she remembered his name unless she went back and watched to make sure she remembered who she met. He's king of the jungle and wants her to be his queen. He thinks the other guys are jealous that he met Hannah before.

Luke S., 29, political consultant, Washington, DC - He also met her before. He was the one I thought was Nick-ish.

Dustin, 30, real estate broker, Chicago, IL - Also met before. That night he came bearing champagne and wanted to toast the beginning of an amazing journey and loving each other every single day.

Cam, 30, Software sales, Austin, TX - He comes out rapping like Hamilton again. She gave him a rose that ATFR night, and all the guys are inside talking about him snatching it before.

*Matt Donald, 26, medical device salesman, Los Gatos, CA - His video seems more frozen midwest farm. There are goats and cows in the snow. His parents and older brother are all deaf. They watch The Bachelor/Bachelorette and love the Roll Tide. He comes in riding a tractor and sings his own song to the tune of "Old Mac Donald."

Chasen, 27, pilot, Ann Arbor, MI - He made her a paper airplane. Takeoff is the favorite part of his job, and he wants her to prepare for their takeoff. He comments about a man in uniform. However, he doesn't wear his uniform.

*Peter, 27, pilot, Westlake Village, CA - He's always wanted to be a pilot. His dad was a pilot and mom a flight attendant. He is wearing his uniform. He gets the pilot uniform bonus points. He gives her his extra set of wings. He hopes at the end they get to fly away together. She liked the uniform. Chasen wishes he had worn his uniform now.

That's the 30. Now time to fight for one-on-one time. 

By the way, I just found out Peyton is watching and I wish she was here giving her commentary. That would make for a more interesting blog. 

Hannah told Chris Harrison that she doesn't have a first impression recipient in mind yet, but there are some she's thinking about. She gives a speech about finally feeling like she deserved all this. She makes a toast and the race is on.

Luke, the one from the shower, talks about this being the last place he pictured himself (yeah, right), but he was smitten with her from the first time he saw her on Colton's season. He tries to impress by talking about being a new uncle and is ready to be a dad.

She talks to some guy about always trying to be perfect.

Connor J., whose mother came from Hong Kong, but he speaks French wants to give Hannah her first Bachelorette party which includes playing games from Minute to Win It.

Cam may have gotten the first rose, but he's so awkward. He says he doesn't kiss on the first date, but claims this is actually their second, so asks her for a kiss. he says he has two sides to his collar and can take a second rose.

Jed has his guitar and sings her a song that include the lyrics, "Roll Tide."

Katie and Demi are out in the driveway in a surveillance listening in and trying to get the dirt on the guys. Demi had gotten a message on social media about one of the guys having a girlfriend, and she's trying to find him.

Joe tries to impress with his knowledge of boxes. He goes home at the end of the night. Well, maybe not, but he should.

Demi is impressed with the second pilot.

Somehow, Demi decides the guy who is into interior design is the one with a girlfriend. One of the guys from Chicago. Scott?

Chris Harrison strolls in and takes Hannah out to the van where Demi and Katie are. They break the news that Scott has a girlfriend. Hannah comes back in ticked off. She tells Scott they need to talk. This time, the guys are not jealous of the extra time. They can tell he is in for it.

Scott claims this woman was just someone he was talking to, not a girlfriend. They did talk on Monday. She messaged him.

All the guys are quietly listening inside the house. He admits he was dating a girl until Monday, but he doesn't think he's going to marry that woman. He's busted. He's a jerk. You just have to hear this guy. He says it's like how Hannah was just dating Colton. She sends him packing.

She comes back in and tells the guys, they too can leave if they aren't serious. She needs a moment to herself, so goes and cries by the pool.

The guys whine over sitting there wasting an hour on Scott.

Luke P. (the obnoxious one) finally decides to go out and speak to her. It hurts him to see someone there for not the right reasons and seeing her go through this.

Then one guy after another try to assure here they are here for her.

When it comes time for the first impression rose, it goes to obnoxious Luke. He scored a kiss.

I'm only an hour behind live right now. It's time for the rose ceremony.
(Cam and Luke P. already have roses.) 
  1. Mike (he almost seems shocked)
  2. Connor S. 
  3. Matthew
  4. Connor J. (cuz she had to go back and add the S earlier, so he got his hopes up)
  5. Jed
  6. Dustin
  7. Joey
  8. Devin
  9. Peter
  10. Dylan 
  11. Matteo
  12. Jonathan 
  13. Tyler C. 
  14. Tyler G. (all these guys whining about not getting time and think they are going home)
  15. Daron
  16. Luke S.
  17. Garrett
  18. Grant
  19. Kevin
  20. John Paul Jones (WHY THE WHY? He's a weirdo.)
If we were going for the name thing, I would have kept Matt Donald. I'm kind of sad Matt Donald is going home. 

Going home:
  1. Matt Donald (he's really hurt)
  2. Joe the Box King (thankfully)
  3. Chasen (The other pilot who blames the time lost with the Scott drama as a distraction.)
  4. Brian  (the awkward laughing math teacher who never had a chance)
  5. Thomas
  6. Ryan (skater boy)
  7. Hunter
We get clips of the rest of the season. Why are they nude tandem bungee jumping? As usual, there will be an ambulance involved. I bet it's a stupid tease.

Until next week...

Sunday, May 12, 2019

Oh, How I Love Jesus

We had a little trouble getting this one started.

Oh How I Love Jesus

(girls) Oh, boys, do you love Jesus?
(boys) Oh, yes, we love Jesus?
(girls) Are you sure you love Jesus?
(boys) Yes, we’re sure we love Jesus.
(girls) Tell us why we love Jesus.
(boys) This is why we love Jesus.
(everyone together) Because he first loved me.

Oh, how I love Jesus
Oh, how I love Jesus
Oh, how I love Jesus
Because he first loved me.

Can also alternate between teacher and kids and insert each child's name in.

Saturday, May 11, 2019

Grad gifts

Since I am always making college signs, I made some just a little different than usual for the seniors at church. They all had senior tables fixed up which included either their college colors or something about where they would be going, so they fit in perfectly. I hadn't done a few of these before, including one state of Kansas!

Thursday, May 9, 2019

Funston wants moms to know there is more FOR them

Part 2 of an Interview with Kristin Funston,
Author of More for Mom

(Read part 1 on the interview here.)

Kristin Funston’s More for Mom: Living Your Whole and Holy Life (Abingdon Press) encourages women to stop believing the lie that more is needed from them, and start living with the truth that more is available for them.

With real-life talk, humor and convicting biblical truths, Funston helps hard working mamas to look at each day and each facet of their life to discover what happens when they believe God has more for them than what they think the world needs from them.

And what He has available is a whole and holy life, just waiting to be claimeda salvation and day-to-day reality complete just as it is. The pieces of each mom’s lifethe work life, mom life, social life, etc.are mended together through Christ to complete her one whole life, set apart because of Him.

This book is a stepping stone to help working mothers reset their spiritual and emotional health, habits, and relationship with God. There are performance pressures at work, home, and mind-sets that affect a mom’s ability to feel complete and live more closely aligned with God. This book includes the beginning steps for moms to walk in wholeness and holiness by asking God for more.

Q: How do you balance mom, wife, writer, employee, friend and so on? Do you believe it is possible to achieve true balance in life?

Honest answer? I don’t. Or I don’t well, at least. I absolutely believe true balance in reference to our lives is a myth. Balance insinuates there will be an even distribution of weight for something to stay upright. There is no way I’m going to evenly balance everything, but I can still stay upright. I think it’s when we do try to balance evenly and stay upright that things fall apart. At any given time or season, one thing is going to give more or weigh heavier than others. Of course, my family is always first, but that doesn’t mean they won’t or don’t have to be more flexible when my work is extra busy for a time. It’s when I notice one thing truly suffering that I know it’s time to reign back and re-prioritize what I’ve been focusing on.

Q: What is mom guilt, and why do moms struggle so much with it?

Mom guilt is just what it sounds like. It’s the feeling of guilt—or the berating from ourselves or from others—for the way we parent (the way we talk to our children or the decisions we make that affect their lives). Mom guilt can show up unexpectedly and quickly and in a wide variety of situations.

The reason we struggle with it boils down to expectations. Expectations we put on ourselves, on others or what others put on us. Sure, we want to do and be all the things to everyone, but we can’t. I talk about this a lot in chapter called “Raving Fans.” When we don’t meet expectations, we’re bombarded with emotions. Mom guilt is cruel, but it grows from something we can control, which is encouraging. We control this guilt by making sure expectations we set align with our reality. And not just our day-to-day reality, but the reality of who Christ says we are and what we are supposed to do or handle. There are a number of ways to manage this, starting with setting realistic expectations and not getting pulled into the trap of making exceeding expectations the expectation.

Q: How do we overcome thinking our time and priorities are more important than anyone else’s? How does that sometimes flow into a “holier than thou” attitude?

Being “holier-than-thou” or thinking we, our time or our priorities are more important than others puts us in a place that is set away and above others. However, God is the only one who is above us and others. We cannot and should not place ourselves at the same level as God, but as humans, we are all on a level playing field. Something to note is that we are not set on separate playing fields either, we are set on the same field, together. We are not set apart from other people but set apart with other people.

We overcome this by first recognizing the fact that we are set apart with other people. This life here on Earth is a team sport. Recognizing this will help us to understand proper attitudes in regards to other people.

Q: We live in a culture that is quickly becoming less and less Christian. How should we build relationships with those you describe as pre-Christians?

I think we do it in the same way we build relationships with Christians. After all, we’re all people. People, whether they believe Jesus is Lord or not, want the same things—love, respect, kindness. We get to know them, invite them to dinner or to a movie, grab coffee, laugh and joke, and have meaningful conversation. However, the line is drawn when it comes to our values stemmed from our faith in Christ. This is where we stand our ground when challenged or offered opportunities to think or act in a pre-Christian way. We shouldn’t always blame non-believers for their non-Christian ways of living because they don’t know any better. But we do. I write about it and reference scripture where it’s relevant, but the light always stands its ground when faced with darkness. Where there is light, darkness fades away.

Q: Would More for Mom be a good tool to share with pre-Christian moms?

Many of the practices I recommend in More for Mom are relevant to all people, so I think a non-believer could benefit from reading it. There are lots of discussion about relationships with other people in More for Mom, and everyone (both Christians and non-Christians) is in some sort of relationship with others and even themselves. The dynamic within ourselves I address deals with strategies to correct our perspectives, live out our dreams, and manage expectations and priorities. These topics are pertinent to all people, whether they believe Jesus to be Christ or not. I also address the relationships, perspectives, and dynamics between believers and non-believers and how that affects our wholeness and holiness and that relationship.

There is also an invitation in the book to non-believers to begin a relationship with Christ and I recommend ways to start that journey. So yes, I definitely think someone who doesn’t actively follow Christ could gain something from reading the message of this book.

Q: Let’s talk about expectations. What are some appropriate expectations to have of ourselves and others? Is there a line we cross where expectations go wrong?

Yes, there is a clear line where expectations can and probably will go wrong. The question to raise is this, “Where is this expectation rooted?” And when I say “rooted,” I mean deep down in the dirt. There are deeper scriptural references to why, but ultimately God doesn’t expect anything of us, so why should we? The only requirement He has is that we love and worship Him, and love others as ourselves. So, love is the only thing we should expect of ourselves and of others. This is the marker with which we can measure the appropriateness of expectations, “Is it rooted in love?”

If the expectation is rooted from a place of loving others as ourselves, then I believe we are good to go. Feeding, clothing and caring for my children is rooted in love. Helping, encouraging and respecting my husband is rooted in love. Offering prayer or a meal to a neighbor in need is most often rooted in love. We just need to make sure to double check that our motives were grown from love, not personal or societal presumptions.

Q: Why did you include a chapter on fasting in a book about gaining more in this life?

Short answer? It’s biblical and necessary.

Long answer? I confess I didn’t know a lot about fasting prior to my research I did for this book, but upon looking at Christ (who lived the very first and truly whole and holy life), I wanted to encourage women to do what He did. And he fasted. Maybe I’m in the minority, but I don’t see (or at least hear about) people in my Christian circles fasting very often. So, I had to do some research on the subject to really understand why. I looked at Jesus and others in the Bible who fasted and did additional research as well.

The answer boils down to this: We can’t live whole and holy without Jesus. He’s the “more” we’re all ultimately looking for. We need to do any and everything that will draw us closer to him—as close as we can be in this pre-heaven life. I believe anything that isn’t drawing us closer to Him is, in a sense, pulling us away from Him. So, we need to get rid of what pulls us away, whether that’s food, social media, or even shopping at Target. We need to enter a fast to get us to a place to better receive what He has for us.

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