Thursday, June 30, 2016
Dispelling the common myths of marriage
Do you know a couple who has been married for a long time and are still deeply in love? You might find yourself wondering what their secret is or how that woman was lucky enough to find such a perfectly wonderful man. However, in If My Husband Would Change, I’d Be Happy & Other Myths Wives Believe (Harvest House, August 1, 2015, ISBN 978-0-7369-6286-5), Rhonda Stoppe shows readers the secret to a happy marriage isn’t related to how “ideal” a spouse is, but rather having a relationship grounded in a love deeper than their own.
“Dating, courtship and planning the wedding are all glorious experiences for most women,” Stoppe writes. “But after the honeymoon, when the wedding gifts are in their proper place and life begins to happen, often the glorious experiences fade into the endless routines of to-do lists, juggling finances and learning to serve one another.”
It’s not long before doubts creep in, and a wife might think, “I’m falling out of love with him,” “Our marriage would be better if bad things would stop happening,” “All he wants is sex,” or “More money equals less stress.” Stoppe dispels these and other common myths about marriage in her easy-to-read exploration of what it takes to experience a truly happy marriage. In fact, the truth is quite simple: The secret to happiness in marriage lies not in how well her husband measures up to her expectations, but in how well she loves God.
Stoppe wants wives to have the marriage they had dreamed, and a happy, healthy, God-honoring marriage is possible. “A marriage flourishes,” Stoppe says, “when both husband and wife learn to love Christ more than any other person in life — including their spouse.” Written to inspire and uplift, If My Husband Would Change, I’d Be Happy is filled with love stories to encourage readers toward building a marriage that others will want to emulate.
Compiled from Stoppe’s more than 20 years of experience as a marriage mentor, pastor’s wife, and speaker, If My Husband Would Change, I’d Be Happy helps women discover:
• How to build a no-regrets marriage
• The secret to keeping his attention
• What romance really means to your husband
• 8 steps to making peace
• How to stay in love
• 10 keys to a happy marriage
If My Husband Would Change, I’d Be Happy is a practical and invaluable resource that helps wives recognize the myths about marriage that are holding them back and equip them to take a proactive approach in their relationships with their husbands. Each chapter concludes with Bible verses for study, discussion questions and a section “From a Husband’s Perspective” written by Stoppe’s husband, Steve, for additional application.
“Need help with your marriage? In this insightful and solid book Rhonda Stoppe gives wives real help! She puts her finger on problems and attitudes that plague every married woman — and then supplies answers, solutions and counsel from God’s Word.”
~ Elizabeth George, author of A Woman After God’s Own Heart
“This is the book for everyone who wants to be content and happy in her marriage but just may not know how.”
~ Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher and best-selling author of For Women Only
“Rhonda Stoppe debunks misleading myths with grace, humor and candor and leaves you with hope that your marriage can become more than the stuff of your dreams: it can be the handiwork of God.”
~ Dr. Richard Blackaby, author of The Seasons of God and Customized Parenting in a Trending World
About the author
Rhonda Stoppe is the No Regrets Woman. With more than 20 years of experience as a marriage mentor, pastor’s wife, author and speaker, Stoppe leads women of all ages to live lives of no regrets.
Using sound biblical teaching through humor and honest communication, Stoppe teaches women how to apply God’s word to live boldly through the power of the Holy Spirit. Stoppe has appeared on radio programs and has spoken at women’s events, MOPs groups and homeschool conventions around the nation.
Stoppe is the author of Moms Raising Sons to be Men, which mentors thousands of moms to guide sons toward a no-regrets life. Her latest book, If My Husband Would Change, I’d Be Happy & Other Myths Wives Believe, is helping countless women build no-regrets marriages.
Stoppe lives in California with her husband, Steve. They have four adult children and five grandchildren.